Truly mastering the craft of being a modern gentleman requires a lot of effort and dedication. It’s tremendously hard to spend countless amounts of hours learning new things, working on improving yourself, and finding a ton of motivation to keep you going through the process. I know how hard it can be. Being a truly high-value man is a state of mind. It’s the attitude one has towards the world much more so than a rigorous routine that has to be followed. And even though there aren’t any strict rules as to what a high-value man should always do, there are some NO-NOs, some cardinal mistakes all of us have probably been guilty of making at some point in our lives.
To put it bluntly, there are some things that a high-value man simply never does, some things that are directly undermining all the hard work he has put into becoming the best version of himself. And that’s the last thing any high-value man wants.
And that’s the last thing you want.
Wanna know how I know that?
Cause you’re a high-value man. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be interested in any of the stuff I write about. You wouldn’t be spending your precious time learning how to better yourself. So, kudos to you, my friend. You’re on your way up. And that’s freaking amazing.
Watch out for any of the negative patterns I’m about to present to you, if any of them comes up, just eliminate them and you’ll have nothing to worry about.
NEVER NEGLECT YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
The very first thing a high-value man must never do is, he must never neglect his mental health. And I honestly cannot stress this enough. Please, take it from someone who’s battled depression and anxiety attacks. If you see some signs of depression, anxiety, or any other mental health issue, seek help immediately.
Don’t let that bs ruin your life, and trust me, it can get into every single nook and cranny of your life and make it miserable.
If you’re battling any of these issues, just know that you’re not alone. A lot of us have been there, but even more importantly, don’t fight it alone. Go talk to someone, there are a number of amazing options and there are so many people who’d be eager to help.
Don’t neglect your mental health. Keep your mind in check, and train it to accept that you’re the one in charge and not the other way around.
NEVER NEGLECT HYGIENE
Do you think a high-value man smells bad, do you think his home is messy? Do you think his bed is unmade? I don’t think so. Having bad hygiene, or even worse, being told that you have bad hygiene is one of the worst things that can happen to any modern gentleman.
Please, don’t make this mistake. Don’t be a man who isn’t clean. Make sure that your home is clean, make sure that your car is clean, and make sure that you’re always clean. Anything else just isn’t acceptable.
NEVER EVER ALLOW YOURSELF TO NOT SMELL AMAZING
To be honest, this is a bit of a pro-tip, but if you really want to make sure that your ass never goes unnoticed, you’ll want to always smell great.
A man who always smells amazing is a man who knows his stuff.
If there’s one thing that men from across the board underutilize it’s a good fragrance. And to be completely honest, I think it’s just simply wrong. It’s wrong.
A good fragrance is like a magnetizing bubble that surrounds you, and subconsciously makes you more intriguing to people around you, and to miss such an opportunity by allowing yourself not to stand out is criminal.
Do not, I repeat, do not neglect the power of a fantastic, crowd-pleasing fragrance.
NEVER STOP LEARNING
Striving to be better, wanting to learn new things, trying to develop and mold himself into the most amazing version he possibly can, now that’s admirable. Any man worth his salt acknowledges the need for keeping up with the ever-changing world and embraces it with open arms. He knows that in order to stay relevant, constant learning is required, and he knows that without it he doesn’t stand a chance.
Admitting he doesn’t know isn’t something a high-value man shies away from. He’s aware that a huge chunk of his power lies exactly there – in his willingness to learn.
NEVER STOP CARING ABOUT THE WAY YOU LOOK
To be a high-value man is to always look on point. Men who carry themselves with style and dignity subconsciously command respect. When people see a man who looks amazing, they feel drawn to him, they instantly feel captivated.
There’s just something about a man who’s well put together that screams sexy. And that’s what every man should strive for.
NEVER EVER GET STUCK IN A COMFORT ZONE
No matter how harmless it may sound, a comfort zone is one of the most dangerous things that can happen to a man, and you don’t want to be the one living there. Trust me. The last thing you want is to miss out on your life because you’re too afraid to take action.
One of the worst places a man can find himself in is a comfort zone. Not being able to act on your dreams and aspirations because you’re afraid to step out of it is crippling your life, and if you ever realize that you’re living your life from the comfort zone, it’s time to get the fu*k out.
NEVER BREAK YOUR PROMISES
If there’s one thing I hate it’s when you can’t count that someone’s going to do what they said they were. If you wish to be considered a high-value man, you should never allow yourself to give false promises. That’s just wrong.
Keeping your word and doing what you said you were going to do says a lot not only about your trustworthiness but also about your character. Every single person on the face of the Earth should keep their word, but this is especially true for modern men. If you wish to be a high-quality man, you’re going to have people who count on you, and if you don’t keep your promises, you won’t keep your value. It’s just that simple.
High-value men are reliable.
NEVER BE DISRESPECTFUL
A lot of men think that being tough or being rude in some cases can make them look more macho, but in reality, it only makes them look disrespectful. Nobody likes disrespectful people, and, honestly, whoever says that being disrespectful in any way is a good strategy, just isn’t right.
Being disrespectful to people around you isn’t only extremely rude, but it also makes it pretty easy for people to dislike you, and if your goal is to become a man of high value, people disliking you for no reason isn’t the smartest strategy.
“Treat others the way you wish to be treated.” It’s one of the best quotes to live by.
NEVER BE INCONSISTENT
Given the fact that the statement “consistency is the key” is true in almost every situation, it shouldn’t come as a surprise that it also is in this case.
No matter what you want to achieve in life, you’ll have to accept the fact that without consistent effort, your chances are slim, so don’t allow inconsistency to stand between you and your dreams.
NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOU THINK YOU DESERVE
Assertive men don’t allow circumstances of life to hold them hostage, they live their life the way they see fit. They go after their dreams. A high-value man knows his worth and he’s not afraid to ask for what he wants. He diligently works on himself and he never allows predicaments to bring him to his knees.
High-value men always follow their ambition.
You wanna know the one thing they never do?
They never settle for less than they think they deserve.
And neither should you.
TAKEAWAY
Even though it may seem that in order to become a man of high value you’ll have to follow a lot of rules and to get yourself familiar with a lot of intricate details, the truth is the main rule is to be a man who’s proud of himself. Strive to be the best you you can possibly be, consider the things listed as guidelines rather than strict rules, and everything else will fall right into place.